System overload it happens to us all. It shakes up your whole world. Everything else matters more. Your own needs can fall by the way side and you then have nothing to give or share. When you partner wants to stir up some intimacy with you they may just encounter a user error.
Miss the thrills of I just can't keep my hands off my mate? That erotic charge that hung in the air between you when everything was new? How do you turn up the heat again without risking a meltdown from your lover who is caught up in the wicked details of life that are constantly exhausting?
Repeated rejection or boredom in the bedroom hits your relationship like the blue screen of death. So how can you reboot in the bedroom with out encountering an epic fail?
Long term relationships offer an array of positives. Love, shared history, endless connections, loyalty, honesty, friendship, routine, partners, soul mates - all feel secure - but, may not be sparking the essence of sexy and exciting that is desired. All that security can be mundane. These very things that love thrives on can stifle passion and lust and that's a wicked and even at times a scary place to dwell. For desire to thrive and be ever present in your relationship it is good to maintain some levels of elusiveness, independence and randomness. Those elements that you had when you were first falling for the one you love. The thrill of the chase. The feel of the forbidden fruit. The excitement of knowing your partner hungers for you.
