Barbara Ward-Finneran
Tony gave his He Said, Dawn gave her She Said... here's my two cents.
I'm lucky to have someone who pitches in and shares the chores. That said, I do think it's human nature to like things done a certain way, especially with jobs and responsibilities that are more like habits that run a muck. It can absolutely create a power struggle within a household.
Before kids it was so much easier. Simply, there was not as much to do and less to recover. Things stayed done longer. Initially after we had kids Steve and I did "co-parenting", working opposite shifts and hours, so one of us was almost always with our boys. Terrific for the kids. Challenging for us. Divide and conquer, took on a whole new meaning based on who was home when, and what needed immediate attention. When they are little, (especially two "babies" in two years) it's life on overdrive! Necessities first and amazingly what is acceptably "clean & tidy" changes. Immaculate becomes a thing of the past.
