She Said... SEXPECTATIONS

Jillian B Hart
After reading Tony's "He Said" from earlier today, where he ponders the "whys", "whens", and "wheres" of sex fitting into life -  it begs for a response.  Yet, all he got was crickets... not a comment was made!


The majority of men always wanting sex is a familiar concept.  As is that theme being a common thread in Tony's "He Said" posts.


According to Kinsey, (in a study done prior to the avenues available on the Internet),  54% of men think about sex several times a day.  Recalling memories of recent romps, fantasizing the future possibilities, as well as daring to day dreaming the wildest desires, all play a part in these carnal cravings that feed the need for some "lovin". At this point in time, it seems to me, many would agree - that number of 54% is grossly underestimated.  LOL

The NEWS FLASH however may be that many women want sex all the time too!   Sex in it's many amazing forms is singularly the most pleasurable act that a man and woman can engage in together.  Sex is and should be AMAZING!  Man or woman, who doesn't want to partake in an astounding erotic event? Sex is easy to come by --- whereas, love, connection and intimacy can be hard to pin point or even find in some relationships.  Males look for sex and find love... Females look for love and find sex. Of course a long term relationship with a lover sweetens the deal and both should happen and co-exist.  Yet that doesn't wash away that the thought process is different and therein lies the conflicting issues.  Our "sexpectations" are different.  If a guy gets off it's been good or even great - a woman needs more then the physical finish to feel fulfilled.

The road to nookie must be paved with intentions.  It matters not so much as to what is going on in life at that moment, whether it be - LIFE IS GOOD, or STOP THE WORLD I WANT TO GET OFF - as to what support is going to be had in the rest of life that doesn't involve sex.  

When your world is in crisis or days are blurring by with wonderment --- If a woman feels connected to her man, knows he's there emotionally, spiritually and physically to support her and their relationship and be part of a PARTNERSHIP then the rest flows freely.  It comes easily.  But if a woman feels like you aren't plugged into her and her feelings... then there "just ain't no turning it on!" 

That said... I will play devils advocate here and say - I'd bet some women play games with their men, his sexual prowess, and limitless libido, knowing all too well you can't always have your lollipop and lick it too!  Perhaps fellas, you need to know how to play back to win the game!


If you likes this post by Jillian check out:
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Hart's Desire on Fire
Seven Day Sex Challenge, Bring It or Bust It?
Business Trip Part VII - Hart's Desire

SOUL FOOD

Barbara Ward-Finneran

Believing in yourself is the first step in the journey towards achieving your goals and dreams. Motivate yourself with positive words, deeds, and actions. That which you think, say, and do will be reflected in your accomplishments. Dare to extend the kindness and love that you give to others with yourself. When  confidence and motivation are seeded in your own heart the fruits of your labors shall become limitless.
Keep the promises that you make to yourself!

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CASEY ANTHONY TRIAL: KRONK TESTIFIES

Marion Pellicano Ambrose

The Casey Anthony murder trial resumed after a lunch break today with the playing of two 911 calls made by meter reader Roy Kronk, on Aug.11 and 12 of 2008.  Kronk stated that he found a suspicious white object and gave his location.  Kronk was drilled by the defense but remained calm under examination. He denied telling his son that he was going to be famous and admitted that he received $15,000 for rights to a photo he took of the snake. He denied the money was for an appearance on the Good Morning America TV show. During opening statements, Casey Anthony's defense team accused Kronk of obtaining Caylee's remains and planting them in the woods to obtain a reward. Lead defense attorney Jose Baez described Kronk as "morally bankrupt" in his opening statement.

Editorial comment: Roy Kronk did not come off as the money hungry beast that the defense had hoped to present. His detailed account of his efforts to have someone look at the suspicious object he found was very believable.  In his calls to get assistance, he never inquired about a reward and even opted to remain anonymous in the first two attempts. I believe he presented a credible explanation. In my opinion, the Defense failed to prove Kronk to be "morally corrupt".  Just what the jury really believes is yet to be seen.

As for George Anthony, he vehemently denied having an affair with Krystal Holloway and stated that she told him she was ill and had a brain tumor.  He stated that Holloway also told Cindy the same information.  He also remained composed and cool throughout questioning. . I’m sure George will be back on the stand again.

WANNA LAUGH?!?!?!

Women will never be equal to men until they can walk down the street with a bald head and a beer gut, and still think they are sexy.

Better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to speak and remove all doubt.

I saw a woman wearing a sweat shirt with "Guess" on it...so I said "Implants?"

Evening news is where they begin with 'Good evening', and then proceed to tell you why it isn't.

Going to church doesn't make you a Christian any more than standing in a garage makes you a car.

SHE SAID

Marion Pellicano Ambrose

While some police officers have initiated high speed pursuits for violations that appear to be minimal, circumstances may exist of which the general public is not aware. What seems to be a simple traffic stop might be an escaping armed felon, a suspected kidnapper or other serious offender.  The police officer is trained to know when a high speed pursuit is necessary. In order to justify such a pursuit the officer must consider the following:

·        Nature of the violation.

·        Time of day.

·        Weather conditions.

·        Geographic location.

·        Population density.

·        Familiarity with the area.

·        Police vehicle capability.

·        Speed required to maintain the pursuit.

·        Proximity to school areas during school hours.

The preceding, are only guidelines and intended for guidance and are not meant to

be all- inclusive. ( Derived from the Detroit Police Department Manual)

According to the New York City Police Department manual:

“Department policy requires that a vehicle pursuit be terminated whenever the risks to uniformed members of the service and the public outweigh the danger to the community if suspect is not immediately apprehended” (NYPD, 2000, p. 1).

Most police departments have similar restrictions.

I can’t deny that there have been officers that failed to heed these restrictions, and as a result, there have been innocent people injured and killed. This is a tragedy and these officers should face severe disciplinary action and retraining, but we should not tie the hands of those competent and prudent officers who follow guidelines and choose a high speed pursuit knowing that the threat presented by the suspect is greater than the threat to the public. Remember, the officer is risking his or her life in this pursuit as well!

CASEY ANTHONY TRIAL: ALL THREE ANTHONY'S TAKE THE STAND

Marion Pellicano Ambrose

It was a busy morning in the Casey Anthony Trial today. All three members of the Anthony family were called to the stand.  Lee Anthony answered questions about the search for his niece. He stated that he argued with his mother, Cindy, about sending Dominic Casey to Suburban Drive which contradicted Cindy’s testimony. Lee testifies: "She sent Dominic off to the woods off Suburban because she got a psychic tip that she wanted to follow up on,"
Cindy had denied sending private investigators to search any particular area of the woods.
"I had never told anybody that I sent those guys there because I never sent those guys there," she said. Lee admitted this conversation took place prior to late October when Casey actually went into the woods.
 Earlier, George Anthony took the stand and denied having an affair with a woman known under two names: Krystal Holloway and River Cruz. He stated that the idea seemed “funny” to him when defense attorneys asked him if he had been romantically involved with Holloway. He said he only went to visit her at her condo because she was ill.
"She has a brain tumor. She was dying. She needed someone to comfort her," he said. "I did go there just to console her." He denied ever telling Holloway that Caylee’s death was an accident that snowballed out of control as Holloway had testified. “Never did”, was his response.

Roy Kronk, who discovered Caylee Marie's remains while working as an Orange County meter reader, was called to the stand shortly before noon. Attorney J.Cheney Mason questioned Kronk about his discovery of a skull in the wooded area near the Anthony home.  Kronk had stated that he picked up the skull with a stick which would refute the State’s case that the skull had been sitting in the area for months undisturbed.
Judge Perry called lunch recess shortly after Kronk’s testimony began. He will take the stand again this afternoon.

Editorial Comments: The jury seemed extremely alert and many took notes today. Lee Anthony again testified as to how angry he was to have been left out of information about his sister by his parents. There seems to be great tension between Casey’s parents and brother today.

I noticed an extra deputy standing right behind Casey throughout the morning. I’m curious as to why he has been stationed there. Perhaps there will be some explanation this afternoon.

Judge Belvin Perry was seen taking aspirin before the trial began today. I heard a body language expert state that he is showing signs of frustration often with rapid eye blinking and other body language. She stated that he showed great self-control in his actions even when scolding attorneys and that he appears to be a great processer. I was impressed with his immediate recall of a precedent setting case this morning regarding a witness being questioned in a way that would cause him to invoke his 5^th Amendment rights.

HE SAID.....

Tony Walker
One thing men are known for is the ability to think with the brain between the legs instead of the one on top of their head. Every thought a man has comes from between his legs. Every motive men have is sexually related.

Woman on the other hand do not have a brain between their legs but the brain on top of their head controls the sexually related stuff very well.

Just about every woman I have been with do not get the same sexual urges as men. If something is wrong in a man's life he will always feel better with some lovin'. Women can't get the crisis out of their head and won't even think about sex until the crisis is at least somewhat under control. When things are going great men like to celebrate with sex. Women may go for some nookie at this point but it is rarely at the top of their list.

My wife & I are currently going through a crisis. Of course I am always looking for a little something. She says she can't concentrate on that right now. Today the crisis is not over but it's better so of course I am looking for something again. She says she needs to calm down from the crisis. Even when things are quiet, most women have a reason. Then when the men bug them enough the women throw their hands up and agree to some but it's obvious they're just shutting the men up.

I've known 2 or 3 women in my life who were as charged up as I am.... damn I miss those girls. I need to find out what's in their diet and give it to my wife!

Ladies, what exactly is your thought process?

Is there something wrong with trying to get some lovin during a crisis? It definitely eases some tension doesn't it?

When things are going well what better way to enjoy life than with some lovin'? You're sharing an intimate moment with your man! They call it making love for a reason!

SHE SAID....

Dawn Boyle
A 62 year old woman was killed yesterday in a head-on collision with a suspected shoplifters on the run escaping the police. The shoplifters were running with True Religion jeans stolen from the Tanger Outlets in Suffolk County, New York.

I feel so bad for the husband of the woman who was killed. He was in the car with her and he survived the crash. I am sure their family has been rocked by this sudden and completely avoidable tragedy.

Was it necessary for the police to be in pursuit of the three shoplifters? I think high speed chases are completely pointless. It seems to me that a majority of the time innocent lives are taken and additionally the police officer is put in harms way as a result. It seems that for us to get the "bad guys" we put numerous lives in jeopardy and usually over something as benign as a few pairs of jeans.

I think it should be considered by law enforcement to make these chases obsolete for menial law breakers. Many lives will be saved and normally the "bad guys" get arrested anyway...bad guys always get caught!

Casey Anthony Trial: Psychics and Psychologists

Marion Pellicano Ambrose

Private Investigator James Hoover testifies in the Casey Anthony Trial

Judge Belvin Perry explained why he called a sudden recess of the Casey Anthony trial on Saturday. The Defense requested Casey be declared incompetent to stand trial. Judge Perry had 3 psychologists evaluate Casey independently. After reviewing the results he deemed her competent to stand trial.

The Defense called private investigator, James Hoover, to the stand today. Hoover had been hired by George and Cindy Anthony to look into the disappearance of their granddaughter, Caylee Anthony. Hoover testified that a psychic directed him to the location of Caylee's remains but when he searched at that time, he found nothing. A month later, Caylee’s remains were found at that same location, according to Hoover. The Defense hopes his testimony will form questions in the minds of jury members as to whether Caylee’s body was in the woods as long as the Prosecution claimed. The trial will continue again Tuesday morning.

WANNA LAUGH?!?!?!

Little Johnny is walking down the hall when he hears a noise from his parents room. He knocks on the door and asks his mom what's going on. "Playing cards," she replies. "Who's your partner?" asked little johnny. "Your father!"

Content with his answer, Little Johnny walks further down the hall towards his room when he hears the same noise coming from his sister's room. Again, he knocks on the door and asked his sister what was she doing. "Playing cards." "With who?" he asks. "My boyfriend!" she says.

A short while later, Little Johnny's father is walking down the hall and hears a noise coming from Little Johnny's room. He knocks on the door and asks "What are you doing?" "Playing cards!" replied Johnny. "Who's your partner?" asked his father...

Little Johnny answers promptly, "With a hand like this who needs a partner?"