HE SAID.....

Tony Walker

For this week's He Said I am not challenging Dawn's She Said or vice versa.

I couldn't agree more with Dawn.

I have a neighbor who has 3 daughters all under 13.... the youngest being 6 or 7.... and all 3 of these girls dress more dangerously than my wife!

Bikini's that barely cover what they're covering. 

In Dawn's post she asks where the parents of these kids are. In this case the parents are right there with the kids! The mother walks around the neighborhood in her bikini, botox, and silicone while daddy has his fake tan and takes more HGH than Roger Clemens! Sorry pal but our time has passed... we are parents now. We're not hip no matter how much you try not to be. You just look foolish and your kids look like trash.

Dawn also asks if we've let "choose your battles" become an easy way out. I know a mother who laughs when her kid tells other adults to shut up, among other rude comments. She's a single mother so she "chooses her battles" since he doesn't have daddy around. Give me a break! I didn't have daddy around & I was yelled at every day! Yes I did deserve it... and so does this kid! Choose your battles.... give me a break. Yelling at my son has become part of my daily routine!

I don't know Dawn... how did we get here? Did we dress like this when we were that age? Do Dawn and I sound like crotchety old people?

Tell us what you think.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MARION!!!!

Many blessings... 

All the best to you today & always!

We love you! 

SHE SAID.....

Dawn Boyle

Every year our church has a festival. It lasts for two weeks. Everyone from town goes. Last year my daughter was injured at the festival and we will not be going again...ever again. This is in part due to her fear of seeing the Zipper and my fear of exposing my children to what I would refer to as Kids Gone Wild.

Kids Gone Wild are girls between 11-14. They have NO reason to be wearing the clothes or shall I say the LACK of clothing. They have their navel's pierced. They flaunt themselves with the top button of their already too small shorts open exposing even more of their thong underwear.

What is going on people? Where are the parents of these CHILDREN? How did they get passed the front door without being told to about face and put some damn clothes on? What would be the necessity of purchasing a little girl thong underwear?

How did we get here? Why are we letting these kids grow up so fast? Why are we afraid of our own kids? Have we let that "choose your battles" become an easy out? Why are we creating little monsters that will eventually become worse then we could imagine?

Nothing good will come of your 11 year old feeling sexy in thong underwear....MAKE A CHANGE!

WANNA LAUGH?!?!

 
 
 
The father of five children had won a toy at a raffle.
He called his kids together to ask which one should have the present.
"Who is the most obedient?" he asked.
"Who never talks back to mother? Who does everything she says?"
Five small voices answered in unison. "Okay, dad, you get the toy."

EATERY IS OPEN - GRILLED PORTOBELLO MUSHROOM

 

 

 

Ingredients

• 3 portobello mushrooms
• 1/4 cup olive oil 4 cloves garlic, minced 
• 4 tablespoons balsamic vinegar

Directions

1. Clean mushrooms and remove stems, reserve for other use. Place caps on a plate with the gills up.
2. In a small bowl, combine the oil, garlic and vinegar. Pour mixture evenly over the mushroom caps and let stand for 1 hour.
3. Grill over hot grill for 10 minutes. Serve immediately.

THE VICIOUS CYCLE

Marion Pellicano Ambrose

He leaves the toilet seat up, she leaves makeup all over the counter. He never keeps his promise to help with the laundry; she constantly cheats on her diet and then complains about being fat. If these are some of the things that are happening at your house, then odds are one or both of you may find yourself turning into a nag.

According to the free online dictionary (http://www.thefreedictionary.com/nagging ) the definition of nagging is:

nag 

v. nagged, nag·ging, nags

v.tr.

1. To annoy by constant scolding, complaining, or urging.

2. To torment persistently, as with anxiety or pain.

v.intr.

1. To scold, complain, or find fault constantly: nagging at the children.

2. To be a constant source of anxiety or annoyance: The half-remembered quotation nagged at my mind.

n.

One who nags.

When your spouse or significant other falls short of your expectations, your response may be to remind, scold, complain, and whine. Why do we think that doing these things will make the other person want to do what we want?  Let’s face it, the more you nag, the less likely a person is to do whatever you are nagging them to do! Nagging just doesn’t work!  Not only that, but it can become a vicious cycle. You nag; your partner withdraws so you nag even more. This is unhealthy for any relationship.

Think of how nagging affects your partner. It makes him or her resentful and defensive. It makes you seem like the parent and your partner the child. That’s both insulting and degrading for your partner. When you nag, you’re voicing criticism and disapproval. That can make anyone feel inadequate and like he or she is being attacked personally.

How do you get out of this cycle of nagging? First, try not to use words like “You should…” or “You never…” Try asking instead of telling. “Honey, would you please …” or “Will you…”  Don’t try to manipulate or make your partner feel lazy or stupid. Make sure your tone and words are not such that your partner will take it as an attack. Never lecture or bring up past events. Try sharing your feelings without blame or accusation. Make sure you are following through on your responsibilities and promises if you expect the same of your partner.

Finally, show appreciation when your partner does those things you would have nagged him or her about. Compliment them, smile, give a hug or kiss to show you notice. Remember what grandma used to say: “You get more flies with honey than with vinegar.” Your partner will be much more likely to do whatever the task is consistently without nagging and with a little appreciation for a job well done.

LOSE WEIGHT BY MEDITATING 5 MINUTES A DAY!

Marion Pellicano Ambrose

I was watching Dr. Oz today while writing for DRL. I had to stop writing because I was so engrossed in the program. His guest today was Deepak Chopra, the Guru of Alternative Health and Meditation.

Deepak Chopra’s message today was that we can actually lose weight using meditation. He says people eat for 2 reasons: physical hunger and emotional hunger. It’s emotional hunger that causes us to gain weight.

Deepak Chopra said that meditation can bring your metabolism up and it becomes self-regulating in a homeostasis state, which is where everything is unaffected by what is going on outside of your body, so you lose weight.  Dr. Oz said that if you are chronically stressed, the hormones from the Fight or Flight phenomenon get trapped in your body and make you gain belly fat.  If you meditate, your hormones are soothed and you do not get to this state.  Deepak Chopra also said that meditation increases your telomeres. (A telomere is a region of repetitive DNA sequence at the end of a chromosome, which protects the end of the chromosome from deterioration or from fusion with neighboring chromosomes. The telomere regions deter the degradation of genes near the ends of chromosomes   ^{Wikipedia.com)} If cells divided without telomeres, they would lose the ends of their chromosomes, and the necessary information they contain.

In the first steps of this meditation, sit in a relaxed posture; put your attention on your heart, and experience gratitude and love.  When you do this, the neurons in the emotional section of your brain begin to fire. So, in this step, we are wiring together our neurons for emotional happiness.

Next, focus on questions like “who am I? And what makes me happy? “This activates the pre-frontal cortex which is in charge of cognition and our thoughts, so we are re-wiring the synapses there.

After that, scan your body for sensations, which stimulates the part of your brain where you monitor experiences.  Finally, you pull your attention to your heartbeat in your fingers and it is amazing that by doing that you actually increase your blood flow to your hands and your blood pressure drops by 10 points.  The more you do this, the more you lower your blood pressure.  You can actually learn to regulate your heart beat and to change your body temperature too.  Deepak said that you are overwriting your mid-brain by doing this.

I’ve attached the directions posted on Dr. Oz’s page for this meditation. It takes only 5 minutes a day, but Dr. Oz says many of his patients have actually lost weight simply by doing this meditation. How about giving it a try? Be sure and let us know how it goes! I’ll be trying it myself so wish me luck!

Dr. Oz: Weight Loss Meditation

Here are the steps that Deepak Chopra walked everyone through to do a Weight Loss Meditation on the Dr. Oz Show.

1.  Put your feet firmly on the ground so that they do not cross.

2.  Put your hands on your lap with your palms facing up.

3.  Close your eyes and pay attention to your heart.

4.  Experience gratitude by thinking of blessings and counting your blessings.  Be grateful for everything good in your life.  Let your ego move out of the way.

5.  Recall an experience of love like someone you love or someone who loves you.

6.  Keep your attention on your heart and ask yourself a few questions like the following: Who Am I? Do not try to figure out the answer, just let your heart answer and guide you.  What do I want?  What is my purpose?  What makes me happy?

7.  Observe all of the sensations in your body.  This step is all about simple awareness of your body.  Bring awareness into your breathe and breathe air in through your nostrils.  Observe as the air moves in and out.  As you take a breath in, think of the word “so” and as you breathe out, think of the word “hum.”  When your mind starts to wander, this is normal, just bring it back to “so” on your in breathe and “hum” on your out breath.

8.  Keep your eyes closed and keep your attention on your heart.  Focus on sensing your heart beat as either a sound or a sensation.

9.  Move your awareness into your open hands and finger tips.  See if you can sense your heartbeat in your fingertips as a warm, tingling sensation or mild throbbing.

10.  Bring awareness back to your heart and relax your body.  Yawn, move, or stretch if you want.  Take half a minute and gently open your eyes.

http://www.doctoroz.com/videos/deepak-chopra-meditation

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CELEBRITY BIRTHDAYS JULY 17

Happy Birthday

"Survivor" creator/producer Mark Burnett (1960)

"Baywatch" star David Hasselhoff (1952)

Singer Phoebe Snow (1952)

Black Sabbath bassist Geezer Butler (1949)

Singer/guitarist Spencer Davis (1941)

Canadian actor Donald Sutherland (1935)

Actress Diahann Carroll (1935)

Jazz pianist Vince Guaraldi (1928; d. 1976)

Comedic actress Phyllis Diller (1917)

Silver screen legend James Cagney (1899; d. 1986)

SUNDAY TRIVIA

Did You Know?

The names of the three wise monkeys are: Mizaru (See no evil), Mikazaru (Kikazaru – Hear no evil), and Mazaru (Iwazaru – Speak no evil).

Barbie was introduced at the New York Toy Fair on 9 March 1959; her real name is Barbie Millicent Roberts and her parents are Ruth and Elliot Handler. Barbie has four sisters: Skipper (1964), Stacie (1992), Kelly (1995) and Krissy (1995).

On average, a woman’s heart beats faster than a man’s heart.

There are more TV sets in the US than there are people in the UK.

On every continent there is a city called Rome.

The elephant is the only animal with 4 knees.

The pin that holds a hinge together is called a pintle.

Some 160 billion emails are sent daily – more than 2 million per second – by 1,2 billion email senders. 97% of it is spam.

Buttermilk does not contain any butter.

0% of all pictures on the internet are of naked women.

Eskimos use refrigerators to keep food from freezing.

The sentence “The quick brown fox jumps over the lazy dog” uses every letter of the alphabet.

The vibrator was originally used as a medicinal treatment for female "hysteria" during the 19th century.

Lightning strikes men about seven times more often than it does women.

The United States hold the record for the highest divorce rate in the world.

An olive tree can live up to 1500 year.

There are 86,400 seconds in day.

Ants never sleep.

Everyday, 15 billion cigarettes are smoked worldwide.

Dalmatians are born without spots.

The electric chair was invented by a dentist.

Every human spent about half an hour as a single cell.

During thinking, humans use on about 35% of their brains.