Bridgette
So there we were, sitting 3 inches away from each other on a loveseat, glaring at a pair of eyes sitting in front of us both. “Why were we here? Why did I agree do try?” Let me tell you it saved our marriage. After only a few sessions with our Sex Therapist, did we start to even look into each other’s eyes and realize that we were on the right track. We knew we were heading down 10 miles of bad road, till we actually were honest with each other. After 10 years of marriage and three kids, all under the age of 9, we finally said, “Let’s give it a swing”. I, who will call myself, Bridgette, didn’t enjoy sex, didn’t want to even bother. It grew into a chore for me. He, we’ll call him Eric, had a strong libido and needed to be satisfied and needed to feel connected. Needless to say, with the lack of libido in me it drove us apart. It wasn’t that I didn’t love him, because I did very much. In my mind, everything was just, OK. I could do without and satisfy myself if I needed to. It was our Therapist who made me answer some really difficult questions. Questions like, “What do you love about your husband?, What do you not like? What turns you on? Do you let him watch you masturbate? Sometimes I was at a loss for words. Other times I was like an open book, and it got much easier as the sessions passed us by. You’re probably asking……when did things change? She gave us some suggestions to spice up what we were trying to fix. They all seemed to be very vanilla, which was fine, so we gave it a try. In other words, Homework! “Tonight, you just look into your spouse’s eyes and tell each other what you love about them”. “Just make-out, but no penetration”. “Hold hands when you are walking together”. Be each other’s boyfriend and girlfriend”
