SHE SAID... LOVE ALWAYS REMAINS

JILLIAN B. HART

"If two points are destined to touch the universe will always find a way to make the connection. Even when all hope seems lost certain ties cannot be broken. They define who we are and who we can become. Across space,  across time, across paths we cannot predict, it always finds a way......."

Can love be defined as an energy between two people? If energy can neither be created nor destroyed, does that then too mean that love can never be created or destroyed?  That love just is.  Always was.  Always will be. It’s there.  Destined to find us.  Once we love a person does every action in our lives touch on some chord that will vibrate in eternity in their heart? We can not deny how we feel.  We can attempt to bury it and ignore it.  Put it in a box and hide it away.  Yet, it never ceases to exist. Is that why when someone says they love you, it makes you really happy, but yet you don’t really “feel” it.  It was already there before the words were spoken. But, if someone takes that love away, or says they don’t love you anymore, you can feel every ounce of where it filled you up drain away.  Leaving you feeling empty.  Out of energy.  That energy is still there. It cannot be created nor destroyed.  It’s just not wrapped around you anymore.  It becomes a conscious intention as to how we move on from that kind of change in the energy in our little corner of the world.  Some may positively interact with it forever or act as if it never was.  There is no escape.  It’s part of your personal infinity.  Love never leaves you.  It’s energy just changes.  

The “Red Thread of Fate” which also has other varying names like “Red Thread of Destiny” refers to an East Asian belief or myth that the god’s tie a red string around those destined to meet.  Some believe that two are tied together with a knot and the others are just looped around to cause a more temporary connection.  Both ideas expressing that we are inextricably connected to certain people.  Perhaps even to all people like expressed in the idea of “six degrees of separation”.  Every interaction has an impact on the string or thread.  It gets tangled, stretched, beaten and battered but never breaks.  All kinds of shifts can take place but the path of the connected thread is a constant.  It inexorably weaves it’s way with you through life linking you and your common connections in the universe.  

According to Chinese legend, the god in charge of “The Red Thread” is believed to be Yuè Xià Lǎo, the old lunar matchmaker deity, (Ah, yes the moon! Another source of energy commonly symbolic to lovers - but that’s another blog.), who is also in charge of marriages.  Two people connected by the thread are then destined to be lovers.  Fated to be connected regardless of time, place or circumstances.  Regardless of a happy life or existence that goes on without daily interactions with the other.  The thread never breaks.  So similar to the Western concepts of soul mates or twin flames.  

Tony recently did a He Said, asking; “Do You Have a One that Got Away?”.  I believe many people do - even if they admit it or not.  

A person can have a good life.  Be happy with their mate, kids, family and still have a forever connection to another.  Not want to give up a thing that they have right now. Not want to risk the good and happy relationship that is their life, yet part of them yearns for that other person.  Perhaps, Facebook isn’t responsible for this resurfacing of emotions that seem so commonplace in our tech world as Tony wrote about in his post.  Apparently "the One That Got Away" has to do with love.  Love that can not be created or destroyed. It always was and always will be.  Perhaps, the “Red Thread of Fate” explains it.  It’s not a matter of “the One that Got Away” but rather, the fact is, if you choose to acknowledge it - YOU CAN NEVER GET AWAY.  LOVE ALWAYS REMAINS!

FACEBOOK FLAMES & FRAUDS

Dawn Boyle
Tony wrote last week about the Facebook Flame and the destruction is does to families....today I want to put a different spin on the harms of Facebook flirting.....

I have two friends who are happily married. They have wonderful children and awesome jobs. They do charity work and help out at the school their children attend whenever asked. From the outside these two have it all together. You can walk into their house unannounced and it looks like they're ready for a party of 15 to arrive.....so not me! Anyway, I talk to these two women often, at least 3-4 times a week. We talk about money, our children and husbands that don't listen to us and how much our mortgage payments and taxes are making us broke. We make plans for drinks and play dates, we get together with our husbands a few times a year as well....here is the difference, they are both broken hearted over someone from Facebook.

My one girlfriend has been carrying on with this one guy from high school since day 1 of Facebook. They haven't seen each other, but speak to each other online and on the phone a few times a day. They say I love you before the end of each conversation and basically she has told me that the only thing that gets her through each day is talking to him.....isn't that cheating??

The other friend is a little bit different. She is actually having a nervous breakdown because her Facebook flame (again - has never seen him) basically broke up with her....how does that happen? I avoid her calls now. I don't want to hear about how he hasn't returned her inbox messages, that he blocked her and how she is now considering telling his wife.....seriously? How can you be in love with someone that you never saw? Never actually had real life interaction with?

How is it that two smart women would get themselves involved with school-girl crushes?? Why is this one acting like Glenn Close from Basic Instinct?

Are they really willing to end it all and walk away from their families, awesome jobs, and seemingly having their acts together, for some random guy from high school they haven't seen in about 25 years? What could possibly be better then the lives they have?

Which brings me to my next topic....THE FACEBOOK FRAUD!
We all know them, their bullshit is smelt in every fabricated post. They lie about job positions, or accomplishments in their info. They post pictures so enticing that even the shrudest person could fall victim. These guys wisk you off in a moments notice to vacations, praying on divorced women who have children, or ones with low self-esteem. They fill their heads up with non-sence of white picket fences and happily ever-after or some other get rich quick scheme.

The truth is these guys are the biggest cons! The come in sweep you off your feet and then you turn around and they have stolen money from you and have left you with a broken heart or scratching your head....LADIES BEWARE, they are on each one of our friends lists, waiting to pounce if given the opportunity!

Go with your gut, and remember the old saying....if it seems to good to be true....IT IS!!

FALLING IN LOVE ON FACEBOOK....

 

 

Tony Walker

 

All the time you hear about people "hooking up" through the internet, especially now with Facebook-I'm sure everyone has heard at least once about some guy & girl who dated 100 years ago & got together recently to remember those times. 

Here's one that's new to me. A guy I know met a girl on Facebook through a friend of a friend of a friend. These two have never met physically, they've made comments on mutual friends' posts & got friendly through that. The two of them became Facebook friends & got to know each other. Nothing wrong with that. I know several people that way. It's nice making new friends right? Who cares how or where you met? Here's the strange part. This guy thinks he may have fallen in love with this girl. Again, they have never met physically. In fact, they're in 2 completely different parts of the Country! But they've had long conversations, actually emails & IM's... this guy doesn't even know what this woman sounds like! Yet based on their emails & IM's, he thinks he may have fallen in love with her. He also thinks that she is absolutely beautiful... which he's right about. I saw her picture. She is stunning. But is it possible to fall in love this way? He is very very confused about this. Either way, he's not going to act on it because she is married. However, based on their conversations he thinks she feels the same way.

Tell us what you think. Do you believe in this age of technology that it's possible to fall in love with someone even though you've never physically met?