Thursday, February 14, 2013


The lounge is two years old today! <3

Happy Birthday Delayed Reaction Lounge and Happy Valentine's Day Everyone!

Thank you to all of our writers and more importantly all of our fans who read our posts!  So glad you've been hanging with us and surviving the "storm".

Know "What matters"... Love life!  Be brave! 
Keep the promises that you make to yourself... and
Please keep on reading!  

It's been a fun ride the last two years.  I'm looking forward to more!

Love, Peace & Prayers,


“The greatest boundaries that we face in our lives are very often the ones 
we ourselves create in our minds."  —  Ellyn Spragins

Can right and wrong get mixed up?  Is there a time and place to blur the lines? Cross the line? Is life always as simple as black and white --- when you see endless shades of gray?

Is there a dream or a fantasy that you hide in your heart, that if opportunity presented itself you would act on it? Doesn't everyone have one or more of those tucked away somewhere?  (Are you fooling yourself if you are shaking your head no as you read this post.)  That secret - never shared, like some taboo topic that is avoided at all costs.  An honesty perhaps not even obvious or admitted to yourself. 

Honesty, integrity and self esteem weigh heavily on the success of many relationships.  But, relationships change.  People change. Passion fades.  Distance grows.  Sex can be an action without an emotional reaction. Lovers can become more like housemates.  Life is not static.  Yet so often the most important relationship in your life is.  It stops growing.  You stop dreaming. Would acting on a fantasy help or harbor the union? Does a happier "you", make for a better "we"? Do the rules change if there is an act of promiscuous nature involved? If it stays in your head and heart is it okay, is there no harm done? A one night stand can be written off and forgiven whereas something with a history or connection means game over. Is an emotional attachment a means to justify or make matters worse? What if no one ever knew? Acting on a fantasy could feed and fuel your libido, whereas the opposite may forever starve your soul.  Can carnal desires or something unfinished ever completely be snuffed out? Is sex ever really just sex? 


Barbara Ward-Finneran 
Transformation must be for yourself or it will not be valid. The new person who emerges gains freedom from their "demons". The process can be painful - but if done with faith in yourself, hope for all you want to achieve, and love of who you are and will become - success will be a given! Choose it. Choose yourself!

Keep the promises that you make to yourself!

Photo Courtesy of Drawn 2 Designs, LLC


Barbara Ward-Finneran
"Love: Noun,

-a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
-a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.
- sexual passion or desire.
a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; sweetheart.

- to have love or affection for
- to have a profoundly tender, passionate affection for (another person).
- to have a strong liking for; take great pleasure in: 
- to need or require; benefit greatly from: 
- to embrace and kiss (someone), as a lover."

What is love? Can it be defined? I love you.  Those words mean everything.  Say so much, but they are not enough.  Love really is all about the action.  More about the giving then the receiving.  Yet when we give and give we never seem to run out.  Love multiplies.  It should never divide.  In essence love is the willful intent to serve the well being of another. The most profound and unconditional ways one puts another ahead of themselves. Do you love?   Do you love enough? Do you love unconditionally?  Do you get enough... give enough?  Do you allow it to know no boundaries? Do you believe it can never be destroyed?  Have you been addicted to it?  Burned by it? Shut down to it?  Have you given it at all costs?  

It's amazing how when someone tells you that they love you it is wonderful and good... but it does not compare to when you have lost that love.  If someone takes it away, ends a friendship, says they don't love you anymore, or dies and leaves you knowing it's still there but in an unfathomable way that is torture... you are so overwhelmingly filled with pain and sorrow.  Is that because we take love and all it's beauty for granted?  Once you get love, you assume that it will always be there in the same comfortable capacity.  

Love takes work.  In all areas and in all aspects.  Work that is worth it.  There is no price to put on it.  There is not a greater treasure then to have gained love.  We should treat and value it always like a priceless gift that could never be replaced.  That should be done everyday.  Can you imagine if everyone tried to love just a little bit harder and a little bit more and not let all the "mess" and "chaos" of life get in the way. Love more, worry less.  Love life and be brave.  Love yourself enough so that you can love others and love God above all things........

It's Valentines Day and everyone, or most people are all about the love today.  As for me, not the biggest fan of Valentines Day... It's a fine day.  Saint Valentine was a cool dude.  I think we should remember to show our love everyday in constant and unending ways.  Valentines may not be my "fav", yet, I am a hopeless romantic. I am a BIG BIG fan of LOVE in all it's many styles and flavors, from friendship to passion and every relation and connection with heart strings in between.  Today doesn't have to be about cupids and arrows.  (Athough, there better be chocolate!!! Oh, who am I kidding, I work chocolate in everyday. Lol)  But it should be, like all days about L-O-V-E!  

Enjoy your day!  
I hope you all are blessed enough to feel the LOVE <3 <3 <3

If you are looking for some inspiration for how to say I love you in a different way tonight or any other - borrow some inspiration from the famous quotes below  and or find endless ideas with just few moments of time and a smatter of key strokes on Google.

Love is the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.” - Mark Twain
Love is something eternal; the aspect may change, but not the essence.” 
-Vincent Van Gogh
“L’amor che move il sole e l’altre stelle.”
“The love that moves the sun and the other stars” -Elizabeth Gilbert

"I want all of you, forever, you and me, every day." - Nicholas Sparks
"Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength,
loving someone deeply gives you courage." - Lao Tzu
"To love is to receive a glimpse of heaven." - Karen Sunde
"The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart." - Helen Keller
“We can do no great things only small things with great love.” - Mother Teresa

"Maybe love is like luck. You have to go all the way to find it." - Robert Mitchum
"Thou art to me a delicious torment." - Ralph Waldo Emerson
"And in the end, the love you take
Is equal to the love you make." - John Lennon and Paul McCartney
"The best proof of love is trust."  - Dr. Joyce Brothers
"Grow old along with me! The best is yet to be, The last of life for which the first was made." 
- Robert Browning
“I want to live my life so that my nights are not full of regrets.” - D. H. Lawerence