In my "He Said" posts I am always asking you sexy ladies out there about why you do certain things. Women are mysterious but I love them so much!
But now I have a question for men... well not all men.... certain men. Men who leave their families.
Not men who get divorced & have part time custody of their kids. That's just a divorce with custody split between the parents. Both parents are still involved in their kids' lives.
I'm talking about the men who leave not just the wife, but the kids too. We all know men like this.
I am a victim of this. My father split when my mother was pregnant with me. He immediately moved to California while I grew up in NY. I met him once. He died in 1980.
Lately I've been thinking about this... not my story in particular.... but just about men who leave their families behind. Very recently one of my closest friends had a bad situation at his home. He is married & his wife has 2 kids in their twenties from her first marriage. When her & her first hubby split, hubby took off & lost touch with the kids too. This was only about 6 or 7 years ago. The kids weren't little but they're so sad about losing touch with daddy that the son went crazy at home a few weeks ago. The cops were called & this poor kid spent a week in the mental ward. I know another guy who recently split from his wife. He worked weekends so his time with his kids was very limited. Now that he is "free" he is off on weekends! A few years back I received a phone call from a girl I know. Her & her hubby were fighting so bad she wanted me to come help. When I got there I realized they were fighting because she wanted to split up but had no place to go so she was going to leave the kids with hubby until she figured something out. Hubby was freaking out not because his marriage was over.... he was freaking because he didn't want the kids!!!
Fellas!!! What the hell are you thinking?? How can you just leave your kids behind?? As an adult I realize that my father was a major dipshit & actually did me a favor by leaving but that's another blog. While I enjoyed my childhood I do remember those times where I had to find a "daddy" for father & son events.
When I was sick with cancer I lost a lot of time with my kids. Then I was on crutches for 3 years from the cancer so I lost more time with the kids. I've been crutch free for 6 years now but I still feel like I haven't made that time up. Maybe I am biased on this subject based on my experience, but I can't imagine so much time away from my kids.
Anyone wanna chime in on this? Maybe tell us your experience with someone who left their family behind? Is there anyone out there who actually did that because of legal reasons or something? I'd like to hear reasons why someone could do that because I don't get it.
