Showing posts with label children. Show all posts
Showing posts with label children. Show all posts

Wednesday, November 9, 2011

LIVING IN FEAR... It's a wicked world

Marion Pellicano Ambrose
Children today have been cheated. They’ve been cheated out of the happy, carefree childhood that most of us have enjoyed.  They have lived every day of their lives with the threat of disaster hanging over their heads. While it’s true that we had “drills”, getting under our desks, we really didn’t understand why we were doing it. There weren’t “doomsday” movies or predictions of the end of the world flashing across the TV each night. People weren’t broadcasting “end of the world” dates and scenarios for us to see or hear. We were able to play, laugh and sleep at night thinking we were safe and that good always triumphed over evil.

The horror of 9-11 helped shatter that feeling of safety and security for us all, but especially for our children. The ever growing numbers of TV shows about disasters, Zombies, Nuclear War , video games and computer sites with frightening scenarios fill their young minds and hearts with fear, even if they don’t realize it.

My daughter leaves the room anytime I talk about Nostradamus, the Mayan Calendar or the predictions of Medjugoria. She refuses to watch shows on global warming, nuclear war, or end of the world predictions. She admits she’s disturbed by these stories and sometimes has trouble sleeping at night just thinking about them. She dreads the coming of December 21, 2012, the supposed end of the world on the Mayan calendar. I’ve explained to her that it is NOT the end, but the beginning of a new cycle.

"It's the time when the largest grand cycle in the Mayan calendar—1,872,000 days or 5,125.37 years—overturns and a new cycle begins," said Anthony Aveni, a Maya expert and archaeoastronomer at Colgate University in Hamilton, New York.
I’ve also tried to explain the supposed end of time due to a shift in the poles of Earth.
Princeton University geologist Adam Maloof has extensively studied pole shifts, and tackles this 2012 myth in 2012: Countdown to Armageddon, a National Geographic Channel documentary airing Sunday, November 8. (The National Geographic Society owns National Geographic News and part-owns the National Geographic Channel.)
Maloof says magnetic evidence in rocks confirm that continents have undergone such drastic rearrangement, but the process took millions of years—slow enough that humanity wouldn't have felt the motion (quick guide to plate tectonics

No matter how I explain these disaster myths, such as the Planed X collision with Earth, or the asteroid that will destroy us, she sees these reports on TV and reads about it in the newspapers and is sure that the end is near.

I believe we need to restore the innocence of childhood to our kids. They need to feel that Mommy and Daddy can protect them from anything, that there are heroes to save them, and that they have a bright and shining future, just as we were allowed to believe.
I know we live in a violent and dangerous world. There are bad people, bad governments and bad things happening to good people, but do we have to share all that with our children at such a young age?  Can’t we shelter them a bit and allow them to enjoy the magic of childhood; You can grow up to be whatever you wan; Everything has a happy ending! These are the things we were told and it allowed us to dream , reach for the stars, and become the best people we could be. Don’t our children deserve this same chance?
To those who say, “I don’t want my child living under the delusions of fairy tales”, I say- they will have to grow up soon enough. Let them live the dream while they can. Bring them to see Santa, tell them about the Tooth Fairy, the Easter Bunny, the Leprechauns on St. Patty’s Day, the Angels that protect them and the little birds that fly to Mommy and tell her what they’ve been doing!

DON’T let your children play violent video games, watch movies beyond their years and understanding, or watch TV shows that are for adults. BE A PARENT - protect and shelter them, even if it’s not the popular thing to do. When they are adults, they will look back and appreciate the gift you gave them.

Sweet Dreams!

Thursday, June 16, 2011

DON'T YELL AT ME!!!

Marion Pellicano Ambrose

The following poem was written to show adults how a child feels when being yelled at - it can shake them to their core. As I read it, it occurred to me that at times, I feel the same way.  Sometimes, when another adult raises their voice or speaks in that tone of voice that I perceive as yelling, I get angry and come back with a snappy remark. But when someone I love uses that tone, it makes me want to crawl into myself and hide. I guess it’s because their opinion means so much and it hurts to have them disapprove of something I’ve done, even if it was unintentional.  Maybe it’s that inner child taking over, but I never could handle being yelled at.  I wish people would think about how they speak to other human beings. I can’t think of a single instance where yelling has ever solved any problem, repaired a relationship, or helped heal a hurt. In my experience it only adds tension, causes defensiveness, and sometimes causes irreparable damage to a relationship. It may make the yeller feel a bit of relief, but it never helps the yell-ee!
What do you think? Are you a yeller? If so, does it make you feel better? Do you ever think of what you’re doing to the person you’re yelling at?  
 Don't yell at me, don't yell at me! I hate it when you do.
it makes me feel so miserable I want to run from you.
I simply cannot stand it when you yell into my ear.
If I knew how to do it I'd completely disappear!
Don't yell at me, don't yell at me!
I'll crawl away and hide. I'll detonate to smithereens
or shrivel up inside.
Feel free to thumb your nose at me or wiggle all your toes at me,
or even ring a bell at me, but please, please, please. pleeeease.
DON'T YELL AT ME!
                                               -  Jack Prelutsky

Saturday, February 26, 2011

WHATEVER IT TAKES !!!

Jennifer Copp

I was hit with a midlife crisis, not by choice. It was actually handed to me on a silver platter. I then had to decide what I wanted to do with it. My decision was that I wanted to move home. I was away more than I care to admit now.

Instead of looking back and writing a long drawn out story, I choose only to look ahead. I have 3 amazing kids that I can happily say are all ME, they walk like me, talk like me and laugh like me. They give me the courage to get out of bed and forge ahead. For that, I will always do what I have to do so that they can have a role model that teaches them they can do anything they want in life.