Wednesday, April 6, 2011

BORN FROM DARKNESS... Pamela's Story

My Journey Through OZ

Pamela Embury

As you know, we all have a story to tell, each one different yet the same. You see, we all share a common thread, something that was unwanted, and yet came anyway to invade our bodies, our lives and our souls. Bonds between breast cancer survivors are unique, it is that beautiful acceptance that is not materialistic, just pure.

My name is Pamela and at the age of 37 I knew I had breast cancer without even going to the doctors. You see, I had been fighting to get approval for mammograms and sonograms since I was 35 but because I had no family history, and was so young, they rejected my multiple requests. Finally, after two years, I was diagnosed through bilateral sonogram. I KNEW IT! To the day of my bilateral mastectomies in 2008,
my mammograms were all normal. I was that small percentage with dense breasts where mammograms would not help. I was diagnosed with left breast invasive ductal carcinoma in 2 of 3 masses with DCIS in the third. My nodes were negative. My ER/PR status were 99% each and my Her2neu was initially reported as negative, however, a year later the copy I received stated positive, and thus I missed out on an incredible drug herceptin, which might have prevented my recurrence.

As everyone can tell you, they do not have time for breast cancer in their lives. I was a single mom to
 two teenagers, working a full time and two part time jobs, planning my wedding and completing my Master’s Degree. This was not wanted in my overloaded schedule, yet here it was, and I had to stop as my life was now overflowing.  I underwent lumpectomy in 2002 along with chemotherapy (CMF) and 8 cycles of radiation. After completion of treatment, I did have a prophylactic oopharectomy on the left  side which after pathology, proved it was cancerous. I had earlier undergone a hysterectomy at age 24 for dysfunctional uterine bleeding and had an ovary removed for necrosis. I was diagnosed with a recurrence at 5 years and 3 weeks from my initial diagnosis. I opted for bilateral mastectomy and waited on reconstruction. I was not sure I needed, wanted or trusted my breasts anymore until one day at work a superior said to me, “Pamela, you look like a little girl without your breasts”! I have struggled with those words for years now because I was happy with my appearance, my choices and my survival. After that I was angry and found out that society is that unforgiving. So, I played the game and began the process of reconstruction. One year later, the expanders would be taken out and implants placed in. The funny thing is the shoot for this project was the last weekend with my new breasts. They were only in for 6 weeks. I had a latex allergy so they had to come out that following week on Monday. It was at this moment, on a Friday that I was painted for the Breast Cancer Awareness Body Painting Project. Words cannot express the liberating, beautiful emotions that came pouring out of me since that day. I was treated as a woman, a friend, a sister and have a new sense of self. Wearing my body make-up out to lunch and back to the hotel was energizing but what got to me more was entering the pool and having the make-up and my breast cancer pain and anguish literally be washed away as I stepped out of the pool...I left my make-up and my pain behind. I am awaiting another surgery to remove these implants and once again, place the permanent implants in on May 7, 2011. Life is indeed a journey that we walk everyday. I am proud to say that this chapter closes with my beautifully painted Journey picture that you see here. I am honored to have participated in this project. You see, my happy ending was just over that rainbow, and my dreams for survival have come true.


For more information, you can email me: specialtycakesbypamela@yahoo.com
 or check out any of the links below...


DRL's original post about the fabulous BCABBP


Please read  BCABBP Survivor, Ellen's Story




The collection of images is also currently on display at:
UNCOMMON Gallery
http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=54903765930
2713 East Commercial Blvd.
Fort Lauderdale, FL 33308


Photos used with permission of Michael D.Colanero & UNCOMMON GALLERY.
All Rights Reserved

7 comments:

  1. Pamela thank you for sharing your story. You, the models and this project are wonderful!

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  2. Hi Pamela - thank you so much for sharing your journey - with me, with the world. We all travel different roads but the bond that breast cancer brings to each of us, is one filled with life and love. The strength that each one of us gives not only to each other but to those who read our path, see our images and heal because of them is so life-giving beyond ourselves. Stay strong my friend during your future procedures and know that your journey is not alone - I am walking beside you. With <3 Valerie

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  3. Pamela,
    It amazes me that you also "knew"...I believe there is something inside all of us that tells us to 'listen' to our bodies, and fight for what we need. Thanks you for sharing your story with us, and with all that will read this...it is a story of not giving up, or giving in. I am so proud to be your "Pink sister", and love you more than words can say...

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  4. Thank you, Pamela, for sharing your story. All of the survivors at BCABPP are amazing testaments that hope and courage that can be found in the darkness and breed beauty, support and inspiration! KUDOS to you all! BRAVO BRAVO!! We at DRL are honored to help you spread the hope, faith and love that abounds in your project.

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  5. Great post! Your courage shines through and you inspire hope!

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  6. Pam I am in awe of all you have gotten through.....with your head held high...stronger than ever! I am so proud to call you my friend!

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  7. Revisiting this blog after our special BCABPP weekend makes me smile ;) Love, Pamela

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