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Showing posts with label Sex Drive. Show all posts
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Tuesday, April 26, 2011
SHE SAID... GOOD SEX INVOLVES A CAN DO ATTITUDE!
Barbara Ward-Finneran
There is something to be said of acting twenty-something to feel twenty-something. It may not take pink pills or pink stilettos to do so!
It is working in many areas of my life. I have embraced my forties by being active in MY OWN LIFE, rather then treating it more like a spectator sport, as was common in the previous decade. In my thirties there were no 5Ks, running shoes, rock climbing walls, bikram yoga, owning an LLC, writing at DRL. There was no blonde wig, little black dresses, shopping at "Vickie's", or stilettos. (I do credit my thirties with becoming a mother - that I affirm, as the most amazing "accomplishment" then and now - everything else pales in comparison!) I feel better then I have in as long as I can remember - and it's because I have made the choice to act and do as I did in my twenties. In my twenties I created dreams instead of just sleeping through them. I put in the effort and worked hard to make them happen. I PARTICIPATED IN MY LIFE!
I have banished the "I can't do that!" or "I'm not an athlete!" thoughts and in recent times replaced them by only positive affirmations or at the very least the thought, "What have I got to lose?". Truth is I lost a lot, and I'm not just talking pounds! I lost; fear, embarrassment, "sitting on the side lines", apprehension and anxiety among other things. The more new activities and ventures that I have encountered and dared to try have made me embrace things like confidence, success, stamina, endurance, etc... Even "failure" is sweeter when it's because it didn't work rather then because I didn't try!
Why not apply the same "Can Do Attitude" to your personal and intimate parts of life? For me it spilled over with out any extra effort. Stepping up to participate in my life in small ways created a catalyst that make me want to do more and more. Every time one part of life feels better it makes you hungry for more of that "endorphin high"!
Feeling good. Feeling confident. Creating dreams. They all empower you. They will also awaken your libido!!! Too often as we age - we lose ourselves. Find yourself. Rekindle your passions and what makes you happy - in all aspects of life. The bedroom will follow.
If you want your sex life to feel as good as it did in your twenties - then act like you are in them. Wanna feel like a sex kitten, be one! Fancy that blonde wig, fashion on some lace and strut your stuff in the stilettos! That's all I'm telling Tony........
SHE SAID.... WHERE'S THE PINK PILL?!
I am not sure where it goes. Could it be aging? Could it be that I am so exhausted from not sleeping since 2001. I am not sure, but I am ready for Pfizer to make a little "PINK PILL" similar to their little "BLUE PILL".
It does bother me that my sex drive is low. Even more so since having surgery this past fall. Maybe it's something that just needs a little more attention to reawaken. Date night would be awesome, but to be honest with you my husband never surprises me with that and I get shot down with lack of funds when I throw it out there. Who knows, peaks and valleys seems to be the norm when I speak to my friends.
You wanted me to share my craziest? I care to share what I wanted to be my sexiest that turned into my funniest.
When Greg and I were dating he lived in a giant house with a few other guys. This house was party central on the weekends but strictly business during the week. I rarely stayed over Monday through Thursday. Greg got up (and still does) at 4:00AM for work. He was sleeping by 9:00 the latest during the week. One night I decided to get dressed up and surprise him. I went the whole nine yards, garter belt, with matching bra and undies with thigh high stockings on, in high heels with a raincoat over it.
I left my house for the twenty minute drive with a nervous stomach. As I was just about to exit the Southern State Parkway I was pulled over by a New York State Trooper. I almost died. By the time I got out of the ticket and realized I was not going to jail looking like a "working girl" the giggles kicked in. I rang the bell at Greg's and my embarrassment was to overwhelming for what was to be my "stripper act". It didn't matter to him, he liked the outfit anyway.
So in closing...I guess it would be easy to get me back into garter belts and raincoats if I was wooed by a surprise date night. I am talking about a major Richter scale earth movement if a babysitter was secured, reservations made and all I had to do was get ready (ALONE). I read on webMD that 99% of all female related sexual dysfunction is emotional charged. A bet some unsolicited random acts of non-sexual attention would work wonders for the 99% of "US" women out there.
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