WALK THE WALK... TALK THE TALK...

with TONY WALKER
A DASH OF RACY MIXED WITH REAL... Rated "M" for MATURE
Back when I was a single man, I had a f*#kbuddy. One day I was on the phone with her when a friend of mine showed up at my house. To bust my chops, this friend picked up the extension & started listening to our conversation. My "buddy" had no idea someone else was on the line. He was making faces & reacting in silly ways to what she was saying. The big blow came when she started talking about my "shortcomings." My friend struck gold. He was hysterical. I got the last laugh though. The buddy went on to say that even though it's small I knew exactly what to do with it. To this day my friend & I still joke about that day.
So here's my question ladies... is it the size or is it what you do with it? Or is it both? Or neither? I'd like to think it's what you do with it that counts. But tell us what you think.
I know women who love a good size, some women say it doesn't matter as long as she loves the guy, some women say the tool does nothing for them & they prefer other options, some say it hurts when it's too big. Tell me what you think.

SEVEN DAY SEX CHALLENGE, BRING IT OR BUST IT!?

Jillian B Hart

Me being me, it's no surprise that a friend told me about the One Extraordinary Marriage "7 Day Sex Challenge", and encouraged me to "read", "research" and "share" my thoughts.  Tony and Alisa Dilorenzo, speak about how when it comes to sex, life gets in the way.  HMMMM.... been there, wrote about that numerous times here at the lounge.  They are promoting the "7 Day Sex Challenge" to improve your marriage.  Do note, they have a spiritual side to the challenge and include prayer.  I will say prayer always has a place in marriage and partnership, and never underestimate the power of a praying wife. Trick is to make sure she's praying for your good being and not your demise.  Or vise versa.  But that's a whole other blog. Like me, the Dilorenzos, encourage you to shake things up and think out of the typical bedroom box.  Consider what is stated in Rebooting in the Bedroom - do what you can and must too prevent your sex life from getting boring.  For ideas read, The Hot List.   WOW, I really am not alone in this, LOL! (Hush, Tony Walker - I know you'll be all over this!) In fact, Fox News was all over it.  (Note to self - get the DRL editors to get a press release out to Fox News. my articles are right along the same lines as the Delorenzo's, HA!)

The point of being necessary for continuation of the species aside.  Sex is an important part of life.  Yet, all too often it is NOT a priority in your relationship.  Why not?  WHY THE HELL NOT?  What's so complicated?! It makes for a happy lover.  It really makes for a happy man! It also makes for a good time, (At least if you do it right!), good relationship, good mood, good endorphins, good health, good sleep, good stress relief, good cardio... the list goes on and on.   The "no time", "no energy" thing - is true at times, but it is often truer that it is a cop out.  If something is important to you - you make it a priority.  Why then, if relationship is important do so many long term partners allow the sex side of it to get lost?  

SHE SAID... GOOD SEX INVOLVES A CAN DO ATTITUDE!

Barbara Ward-Finneran

There is something to be said of acting twenty-something to feel twenty-something.  It may not take pink pills or pink stilettos to do so!

It is working in many areas of my life.  I have embraced my forties by being active in MY OWN LIFE, rather then treating it more like a spectator sport, as was common in the previous decade.  In my thirties there were no 5Ks, running shoes, rock climbing walls, bikram yoga, owning an LLC, writing at DRL. There was no blonde wig, little black dresses, shopping at "Vickie's", or stilettos.  (I do credit my thirties with becoming a mother  - that I affirm, as the most amazing "accomplishment" then and now - everything else pales in comparison!) I feel better then I have in as long as I can remember - and it's because I have made the choice to act and do as I did in my twenties.  In my twenties I created dreams instead of just sleeping through them. I put in the effort and worked hard to make them happen.  I PARTICIPATED IN MY LIFE!

I have banished the "I can't do that!" or "I'm not an athlete!" thoughts and in recent times replaced them by only positive affirmations or at the very least the thought, "What have I got to lose?".  Truth is I lost a lot, and I'm not just talking pounds!  I lost; fear, embarrassment, "sitting on the side lines", apprehension and anxiety among other things.  The more new activities and ventures that I have encountered and dared to try have made me embrace things like confidence, success, stamina, endurance, etc... Even "failure" is sweeter when it's because it didn't work rather then because I didn't try!

Why not apply the same "Can Do Attitude" to your personal and intimate parts of life?  For me it spilled over with out any extra effort.  Stepping up to participate in my life in small ways created a catalyst that make me want to do more and more.  Every time one part of life feels better it makes you hungry for more of that "endorphin high"!

Feeling good.  Feeling confident.  Creating dreams.  They all empower you.  They will also awaken your libido!!! Too often as we age - we lose ourselves.  Find yourself.  Rekindle your passions and what makes you happy - in all aspects of life.  The bedroom will follow.

If you want your sex life to feel as good as it did in your twenties - then act like you are in them. Wanna feel like a sex kitten, be one!  Fancy that blonde wig, fashion on some lace and strut your stuff in the stilettos!  That's all I'm telling Tony........

LUNCH TIME POLL

Jillian B. Hart


The flux of hormones that conjured wild images of hungry kisses exploring every inch of her flesh.  His mouth salivated, ravenous for a deeper taste, as she opened her mouth with a low sexy moan. The heat with in them heightened to inferno....

I've been told that my "Hart's Desire" stories are HOT, HOT, HOT.... even been asked if the stories are fantasy or reality based.  My feeling is you make your own reality.  You should create what you DESIRE.... Create the sex life that you desire...


According to your own personal definition of what constitutes a "good sex life"...
How would you rate your sex life?

Nonexistent
Mortifying
Bad
Fair
Needs Improvement
Good
Excellent
Fabulous
White HOT
World Rocking

Would your partner agree or disagree with your evaluation? 


If it needs spice, are you willing to go there?


What are the aspects or criteria that affect your definition of a "good sex life"....
Frequency
Attraction
Quality
Endurance
Spontaneity
Spice & Thrills
Ratio of climaxes to escapades
Multimedia (Think Tony's Post)
Affection
Foreplay
Fidelity
Number of Jealous Friends
Fantasy Aspect

Thoughts???? Comments...... Talk to me people!!!

HE SAID....

Tony Walker

Here's one that's probably going to get me crucified!

Ladies.... why do you get so hung up over us guys trying to get you to kiss other women?

It's fun, it's sexy, it's hot, it's sexy, it's beautiful, & it's hot!! What's wrong??

There's been posts on here by me & some others... but mainly me.... about how we all need to loosen up & just enjoy the lovemaking with our partners. Doesn't this fall under that category?

Yes I am one of those men who think 2 gorgeous women kissing is the biggest turn on. To me there is nothing sexier than 2 naked women kissing. Am I a pig? Probably. But this is me & most other men.
Don't get me wrong... I am not replacing this for romance or true lovemaking. I am also not saying this is better than a romantic night with your soulmate. What I am saying is that there is nothing wrong with this as a way to spice things up.

I know some women who love a little girl on girl sometimes. I doubt I'll get someone on here to back me up. But I know you girls are out there!

RATHER KISS FROGS...PRINCE CHARMING IS AN IDIOT

Jenn Copp

Going back to being a little girl and listening to fairy tales, I always thought it was that the girl meets the frog and he turns into a prince, right? That's what I believed. But why do I listen to all my friends who meet these guys who are PERFECT in every way? Attentive, creative, romantic, funny, charming, talkative, and the list goes on. Then BAM three months comes and they are heart broken. Does this phenomenon happen both ways? I wonder, what is it with the three month rule that changes things? If you make it past three months are you good to go?

WHAT'S SO COMPLICATED?!

Ms. Jillian B. Hart

What’s been shakin’ since I started hanging at the lounge have been lots of requests for a Q&A forum.  To which I am both bemused and humbled as I feel my prose take straight forward common sense approach to life with your mate.  

It seems simple to me to do what you need to do to gain a desired outcome - whether for inane every day activities - or goals and dreams.  

First off - I will state that I am not a doctor or professional of any sort in the field of therapy or related “muses”, but rather have been accused most of my life of being intuitive to relationship and life issues.  My remarks are opinion and observation based and laced with emotion from the heart.  

So lets start with the simple.  Mar & Venus in the bedroom was the hot topic at the lounge some posts back.  The inquiries posed to me recently will be addressed, by combining the main objectives into one generalized question, “How do I get my husband to help and pay more attention to my needs?” 

If the difference are so apparent and are recognized, why fight so hard against what you already know?!