SHE SAID... GOOD SEX INVOLVES A CAN DO ATTITUDE!

Barbara Ward-Finneran

There is something to be said of acting twenty-something to feel twenty-something.  It may not take pink pills or pink stilettos to do so!

It is working in many areas of my life.  I have embraced my forties by being active in MY OWN LIFE, rather then treating it more like a spectator sport, as was common in the previous decade.  In my thirties there were no 5Ks, running shoes, rock climbing walls, bikram yoga, owning an LLC, writing at DRL. There was no blonde wig, little black dresses, shopping at "Vickie's", or stilettos.  (I do credit my thirties with becoming a mother  - that I affirm, as the most amazing "accomplishment" then and now - everything else pales in comparison!) I feel better then I have in as long as I can remember - and it's because I have made the choice to act and do as I did in my twenties.  In my twenties I created dreams instead of just sleeping through them. I put in the effort and worked hard to make them happen.  I PARTICIPATED IN MY LIFE!

I have banished the "I can't do that!" or "I'm not an athlete!" thoughts and in recent times replaced them by only positive affirmations or at the very least the thought, "What have I got to lose?".  Truth is I lost a lot, and I'm not just talking pounds!  I lost; fear, embarrassment, "sitting on the side lines", apprehension and anxiety among other things.  The more new activities and ventures that I have encountered and dared to try have made me embrace things like confidence, success, stamina, endurance, etc... Even "failure" is sweeter when it's because it didn't work rather then because I didn't try!

Why not apply the same "Can Do Attitude" to your personal and intimate parts of life?  For me it spilled over with out any extra effort.  Stepping up to participate in my life in small ways created a catalyst that make me want to do more and more.  Every time one part of life feels better it makes you hungry for more of that "endorphin high"!

Feeling good.  Feeling confident.  Creating dreams.  They all empower you.  They will also awaken your libido!!! Too often as we age - we lose ourselves.  Find yourself.  Rekindle your passions and what makes you happy - in all aspects of life.  The bedroom will follow.

If you want your sex life to feel as good as it did in your twenties - then act like you are in them. Wanna feel like a sex kitten, be one!  Fancy that blonde wig, fashion on some lace and strut your stuff in the stilettos!  That's all I'm telling Tony........